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Before I got the chance to delete the blog myself, Tumblr staff went ahead and terminated it for me. Why? Because I posted stuff they didn’t like. It just took them 2 years to actually do something about it.
Now I am back on again with a new account, and I won’t be doing that again!
This blog is dedicated to SFW art only. Now to following all your awesome people all over again if I can remember your URLs.
Human beings are social animals. We were meant, as were our chimpanzee cousins, to live in social groups. Historically these were groups of a few extended families. Within these groups there was and still is today, a struggle for dominance and upward movement in the hierarchy.
This leads to comparisons within the group, and also, self-comparing to others and a mental image we have of ourselves. This is all perfectly natural. However it can get out of hand and become a problem, This is most noticeable in our teens and early twenties when were are competing with our peer group for potential mating partners. Adolescents are generally unsure of their position in the group and in their own merits.
This leads to negative self-comparison. We compare ourselves to others and to an idealized internal image of who we are and who we should be. These comparisons are almost always negative because we tend to denigrate our own merits and achievements and exaggerate those of others in our peer group. This is known as “comparing our blooper reel to their highlight reel.” We also compare ourselves to an ideal of who we think we should be and this is negative too. Why? Because reality can never live up to the ideal. Never.
So, what to do?
Recognize that comparing yourself to others is a bad habit: Negative self-evaluation is a habit. It is a bad habit which should and can be broken. It is a repetitive pattern of thought. Recognize the thought and reject it. We do not have to believe our thoughts. They are often quite wrong.
Realize that everybody is unique: Forget Hollywood. Forget advertising. Forget all of those tall leggy blondes or buff guys with five o'clock shadows and six packs. People are different. Most of those people don’t look like that sitting in front of the TV in their sweats on their day off. Ideals are by their very definition unreal.
Do not be afraid to be yourself: Seriously, you are you. You have walked a long road to get here. You change every second. You have good qualities and bad qualities. Everybody does. Self-comparison is useful at times for helping us to achieve goals but when it leads to sadness, fear, worry, and self-hatred then it is the self-comparison which is the problem, not your perceived flaws.
Maintain a Positive Mental Attitude: Use positive self-talking, affirmations and visualizing yourself as a happy, actualized and self-accepting human being. Your negative self-images and negative self-talking simply make you miserable and do nothing to improve you.
Follow your own path: You walk your own path. You have no need to conform to anybody else’s expectations or demands. Love yourself for who you are. You deserve love, acceptance, and respect and do not accept anything less. Likewise, you do not need to control anybody else.
Flow like the river. Accept, respect and love yourself. If you do not then who will?
Ok so it actually worked cause we got served with an eviction and owe $1739 and we have like 1300 and my moms friend said hes gonna pau the rest that we owe and take us out to dinner
This reminds me of how a friend of mine was abused by the mother of his child. She was mentally unstable and used to berate him constantly and would smack him in the head all the time. It really pissed me off. Then one night she threw hot coffee in his face and tried to stab him with a screwdriver. The cops hauled him off to jail because she made up a sob story that painted herself as the victim.
Once he left her, he stayed with me and it was a nightmare. She stalked him and me. She would drive by my house obsessively at all hours of the day and night (her muffler made a weird sound so I know it was her). She started showing up at my job, showing up at the places I frequented around town, and filling up my voicemail with dead air. The cops were no help.
One day she got bold enough to talk her way into my home by conning my elderly grandmother, whom I was taking care of, while I was out. She went in my room and went through my stuff (creepy), then found him napping on the couch and attacked him. My grandmother witnessed the whole thing. He grabbed her by the arms, forced her out the front door, and locked it. The cops were called again. They said they’d go and ‘talk’ to her.
The next day we were watching a movie and there was a knock at the door. The police had come to arrest him. She filed a complaint against him and shown off some bruises on her arms from the altercation that she swore were completely unprovoked. My grandmother saw the whole thing since she was in the living room too and testified on his behalf. He still ended up serving jail time. No one takes male domestic violence victims seriously. They only see males as perpetrators.
i was so scared to read the comments because fucking tumblr but im really happy i did. domestic violence/abuse should not be tolerated no matter what your sex/age/religion etc.
